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Back in the day, a cheater had to be very careful about making contact with his or her secret lover.
From whispered conversations on the kitchen phone to quick trips to the gas station where he could use the payphone, a cheater had to be a lot sneakier.
Today, with the advances in digital communications, it is a lot easier to make a cellphone call from anywhere, shoot an email or text message, leaving the cheater’s true partner almost completely in the dark.
One thing that never changes, though, is that cheaters always leave signs. How can you tell if your spouse is communicating with a secret lover? Here are a few ideas.
1. Computer usage. If your spouse is suddenly and unexplainably spending more time online, especially late at night, early in the morning, or other times when you are not around, that could be an indication she is trying to hide something.
Depending on how sophisticated she is, you may be able to simply check your browser history to see where she has been. Many people may know to delete that, but there are programs you can install that will monitor and record every keystroke on a given computer. These are impossible for even advanced computer users to detect.
2. Cell phone usage. If your partner is keeping a closer eye on the cell phone than in the past, he may be trying to stop you from checking his call logs. If you can get a hold of the thing, and the records haven’t been deleted, you can see who he has been calling and how long they have talked. Check address books as well.
3. Never forget the old fashioned cheating detection methods. Quick hangups, either on land lines or cell phones, suddenly changing what he or she is doing when you walk in the room, etc.
Check land line phone records for calls you don’t recognize. If you see calls to a secret lover on there, not only are you with a cheater, you’re with a moron!
Always be aware of what he or she is doing (and try to be aware in a non-stalker kind of way) and trust your instincts. If you think you may be dealing with infidelity, gather some facts before you confront.
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How do you know if your spouse is cheating on you? One of the best means of getting an answer to the question is with the use of technology. We have access to personal computers, laptops, cell phones, hidden cameras, and yes, now the GPS systems! How can anyone think of cheating on their spouse, and getting away with it, in this age of technology?
Statistics show that since the increase in premarital sex over the past few decades, spouses, especially women, tend to cheat more freely than they would have 20 years ago. The days of marrying your high school sweetheart seem to be almost one for the history books.
To catch a cheating spouse, start with the obvious. Check numbers on the cell phone,calling ones that are unfamiliar to see who answers the call. Also, check the cell phone bill. Those numbers cannot be deleted. Check e-mails at home and at work.
If your spouse has a laptop, check not only inbox messages, but deleted and trash mailboxes. Almost every place has cameras for security. If you know the security personnel, you can view the tape to check if your spouses car was in the parking lot for a day in question.
Ah, the GPS system! Let’s save the best for last. Learn to check the GPS system often, at least daily. If you do not know how to check past destinations, learn how to do it. A spouse can hardly deny their location for the hours of “working late at the office”, if the GPS shows that they were indeed at a house in the next town! Your spouse will not be able to deny their location.
Once you have finished proving that your spouse is cheating on you, the real problems are just beginning. Many marriages do not survive the tide of infidelity. The issues of trust and broken wedding vows are hard to overcome. Divorce is many times the only solution. The fight to regain trust from a spouse that has cheated on you is almost impossible.
Ironically, most couples that divorce their spouse because of infidelity do not continue the relationship with the person with which they were having the affair. The marriage is over, the house divided, hearts broken, and all for the need to find what is missing, get a thrill, give into lust. All this, just to become another statistic of the cheating spouse.
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